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Sometimes our mind gets so much steam or momentum behind it that we can’t stop it. It becomes like a runaway train barreling down the tracks at top speed, full steam ahead with no brakes. Sometimes our thoughts pack so much energy, they render us scattered, unable to focus, distracted and anxious. This can ruin our day and keep us up all night so we wake up and go to bed feeling exhausted or emotionally overwhelmed.

Since our thoughts keep our feelings stirred up, this cycle makes for a difficult time. Anger, sadness or shame, for example, can consume us, distract us and drain us. Unanswerable questions about the past or future can frustrate us. Wishing things were different leaves us feeling unhappy and disconnected from the contents of our life.

This happens because thoughts and feelings are energy. And when we allow our mind to feed its thought energy into our feelings, they intensify and grow into emotions. Emotional energy is more dense than feelings and impacts our nervous system which directly influences how the rest of our organs function—our brain, heart, liver, kidneys, glands, digestion, etc..

When we indulge in painful thought cycles, not only do we suffer but our life begins to mirror the heaviness they carry. This happens because our energy flows where our attention goes. What our mind focuses on is what we feed all our prana or life force energy to. Whatever that is, it grows in strength and power in our life.

The energy of our thoughts and feelings carry a specific frequency that can be low or high. When our mind cycles low frequency thoughts, our being cycles low frequency feelings, emotions and desires that lead to low frequency actions. These actions are out of alignment with our highest good and our soul's evolution.

As we learn ways to gain mastery over our thoughts and reclaim our power from the mind, it becomes our employee rather than our boss—a tool we can use to problem solve, plan and follow through with actions to elevate us out of the low frequency existence we are stuck in. This means we stop leaking our energy to useless mental-emotional cycles and start elevating ourselves into a higher frequency, vibration or caliber of being.

From a higher caliber of being, life takes on a different color. We begin to feel more empowered, centered, confident and happy inside. We start dealing with stressors with calm certainty rather than regret, worry or anxiety. We can take actions that are aligned with Source wisdom instead of with our conditioned mind's base drives and fears. And we may use our experiences to open instead of close our heart. The difference can be amazing.

WHAT WE CAN DO THAT HELPS

Toward this goal, I offer a simple technique to help move the energy of low frequency thoughts, feelings, emotions and desires out of our body to stop diminishing our caliber. From a place of renewed spaciousness we have the power to transform our life for the better. This technique involves using a specific journal called a RANT journal. The technique is super simple yet very powerful. Here is how it works:

1. Buy yourself a special journal with pages big enough to scribble on. The pages can be lined or not; it doesn’t matter.

2. You will keep this journal in a private place. It is for your eyes only. But just in case anyone should find it, write a disclaimer on the first page that says something like this: This journal is my RANT Journal. It is part of my process to evolve beyond what it contains. And it is intended for my eyes only. I know none of what it contains is true. So do not take anything written in here personally should you happen to read it.

3. Should you find yourself cycling in hurtful thoughts, you are to write them into the pages of this journal. Do not edit or screen what you write in any way. Write it as horribly as you think it. Even if you know a thought is not true or you do not agree with it, write it just as you thought it anyway. In this way you are capturing the contents of your runaway thought trains.

4. Do not write in a neat, pretty, legible way; just RANT messily!

5. Do not write anything else in this journal. It is used exclusively for RANTing hurtful thought streams.

6. You can write, scribble and draw in this journal but only if it is part of your RANT.

When your RANT Journal is full (and this can take days, weeks or even years), your task is to safely and ceremonially burn it. Fire purifies and transmutes the energy of what you wrote. Alternately, you can tear out pages and burn them as you go, but for some of us, reviewing our rants is therapeutic and helps us learn from the past, grow, and evolve spiritually.

It is essential that we burn our RANT Journal to alchemically transform and purify all it contains. Burning it keeps us from feeding that heavy energy into the collective consciousness or field of existence we all share. This is part of how we take responsibility for our role in creation, because we do create with our thoughts. They are the seeds of what we experience in this reality.

HOW TO DO A SAFE AND PROPER BURN CEREMONY

Here's how to conduct a burn ceremony with your RANT Journal to release what doesn't serve:

1. Find a safe place to make a fire outdoors. Any clear space will do, away from brush and trees. Clear a spot on the ground that is free of grasses. You can use a grill, cast-iron cauldron, pan or pot, or similar object to contain the fire if you don’t have any fire bricks or stones to form a circle. Or you can dig a hole that’s deep and wide enough to place your journal into.

2. After picking and preparing your safe burn area, hold the journal in your hands and consciously thank it for bearing all that pain from your past. Thank the pain and all the contents of the journal for the lessons it brought you and for helping you heal so you can evolve.

3. Place the journal into the space where you will burn it. As you do so, hold it with gratitude and with clear intent to release all it contains from your life to be transmuted into pure energy by the fire.

4. Light the journal and watch it burn as you keep your intent in your awareness (to release and transmute all it contains with gratitude for helping you heal and evolve). Depending on the type of journal, you may need to remove pages and crumple them slightly to fully burn. Or open the journal and crumple some of the pages before lighting it to facilitate a complete burn. Surrender all of what those pages contain to our Supreme Source of all that is. Watch the heaviness of it burn to ash, as the smoke carries your gratitude to our Supreme Source. Feel free to stir or poke it to help it completely burn.

5. Once it is completely burned to ash, you can put dirt over the ashes or simply leave them to disintegrate where they are. If the ashes are in a container, pour them onto the dirt or ground. Offer your thanks to the fire for its help before walking away.

6. The final step in this ceremony is to dream into what you want to carry forward. Now that you've cleared out some heaviness, what do you want to embrace and grow in its place? Choose a word or phrase that captures your dream. It might be "love," "integrity" or "courage." It might be "to honor my truth," "love myself" or "accept my whole self as I am." Or it could be "to hold [name] in gratitude without attachment." Choose a word or phrase that feels good and right for you in this moment.

There's not a wrong way to do this, so listen to your inner voice—your intuition—and trust it. Write your word or phrase into a daily journal as a way to mark your new beginning. Commit to yourself to keep the past in the past and move forward with your new intent. Keep your focus on your new intent every day for at least 40 days to reset the old default neural pathways and begin anchoring it into your life experience. This kind of specific, dedicated action is how we can change our reality to reach our dreams.

Remember, if we change nothing, nothing changes.