Are we missing the boat on love? Part 5

Maybe you've said something like this or heard other women say it: "My head knows what I need to do but my heart just won't listen. It won't let go."

Despite what we may think, we have this backwards. Our heart knows what to do but our head just won't listen. Our heart is home to our deepest truth, while our head is home to our conditioned mind.

Reading that, you may be thinking, "But if I listen to my heart, I want to go back to my ex and I know I shouldn't or can't go back." This is a big misunderstanding of ourselves so let's get into it.

First thing is that the heart holds love. That's what it is designed to do. And it will even hold love for a toxic person in our lives like an ex. After a painful breakup, it's not feeling love for the ex that we struggle with. It's all the rest of it—the mental bullshit racing through our mind 24/7 that stimulates our emotions and stirs up the fears, desires and drives of our conditioning.

Second, desire does not equal love. Genuine love is pure, unconditional, unattached and freely shared. While desire may be a part of how we experience loving someone, it is not love itself. In fact, simply put, it's hormones.

If the notion of listening to your heart instead of your head confuses or concerns you, you're not alone. At first glance, most women feel that way because we are conditioned to believe that our heart is easily swayed while our head gallantly guides our way through life's difficulties, but there is a lot more to this than meets the eye.

For context, it's important to recognize that the we live in prioritizes might over wisdom...fist over heart. Part of the reason for this is that for centuries men deliberately created societal structures that enable them to maintain dominance and control over things. That's still true today. This isn't about dishing on men. It's about understanding that this paradigm keeps the field of our existence in a constant state of imbalance and mass distortion which makes it difficult for women to see and forge a new way forward.

Setting all that aside, what's important to understand is that the fist over heart approach is actually backwards. Our heart is a direct line to our divinity and to the field of our creation, not our head. We can't create something new out of mental distortion and conditioning. Correcting this error is essential to our journey out of suffering which includes how we experience love and relationships.

For humanity this is about placing our personal power in its proper home where it belongs—in our heart. When we learn to guide our lives from our heart wisdom instead of our conditioning, we can begin to free ourselves from struggle. The switch is a very intuitive one for women to make, yet we must see past our current conditioning to make it. When we can, we begin to reclaim our sovereignty and that's when our lives can begin to align with the love we truly want.

Remember if we change nothing, nothing changes.