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Six insider tips for getting through the holidays

I've been thinking a lot about you recently because we've entered the holiday zone. It's that stretch from Thanksgiving to Christmas to New Years to Valentine's Day. If you're new(ish)ly single or in the throes of a breakup, this stretch can trigger extra feelings of distress and overwhelm.

I understand. Being single during the holidays is taboo, isn't it? Everything around us screams it's only special if we're with someone special. And if we're not, something must be wrong with us because everyone else out there has someone special to share the holidays with, right?


This kind of self-talk is devastating. We convince ourselves to stay home, miss out on all the fun and isolate in misery because...who wants to spend time with us?

When we feel betrayed and hurt, we convince ourselves there's something wrong with us or that we should be ashamed of who we are. What I've learned is there's NO truth to this. It's only the power of our (ego) mind that convinces us we are not worthy of fun or love or whatever we long for.

And you know what? It's dead wrong. Have you seen the movie I Feel Pretty? It's a silly flick I happened upon recently and it hooked my attention because it points to something deep and important here. Check it out; it's worth a watch.


I'm here to tell you what your mind says to you about you is a fabrication, a very poorly constructed image of who you are. I'll even go so far as to say it's a lie!

Do you know why? Because you are a child of God—the Supreme Source of this entire Universe! You are the only you here. You are perfect just as you were created to be. And you have nothing to be ashamed of.

And get a load of this: our self-image is based on events of the past or expectations of the future, when actually who we are in this moment is neither our past self nor our future self, but is whoever we choose to be. In this moment, we have the power to transcend the past and transmute the future. Wow...that's powerful!

So don't listen to the fabrications of your (ego) mind. Put your true self in charge! Enjoy the holidays with or without others around. Whether you do or don't, it's all in your mind...