Hello my friend.
However things feel to you in this moment, I'd like to offer some support. Maybe you're feeling okay or maybe you're not. Maybe you're calm or maybe you're stressed. Maybe your life hasn't changed much this year, or maybe it has fallen apart. Whatever is happening in your world, what I share in this blog can change everything...long term.
I'll get to that in a minute, but before I do, I want to share that I'm hearing stories in which all of the scenarios I mentioned above are true. While some people's lives are stable, others are dealing with devastating changes that have turned their world upside down—an unexpected divorce, loss of a job and steady income, death, wild fires, floods, a dreaded diagnosis...The list goes on.
THE REALITY OF CHALLENGE
And yet I'm aware that despite the unusual nature of 2020, such challenges are always a part of life. Life has a way of reminding us that we are not in control...ever. And how ironic to be writing about this today, on one of the most shockingly out of control days in North American history—September 11th.
This reality of not truly having control over the course of our lives can feel overwhelming and frightening, especially since we're conditioned to believe if we work hard enough and make all the necessary sacrifices, we'll eventually get the payoff of not having to worry. And yet no matter how hard we try or how much we do, we may find ourselves back at the foot of the mountain.
So how do we quell the urge to crumble into a heap of anxiety and hopelessness? How do we stop wasting our energy trying to outpace or control life, when it is capable of knocking us down over and over again? This is the million dollar question, right? And we all want the answer.
THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL
It may sound and feel crazy, but the answer is actually found in giving up our attachment to control—the notion that we can somehow make life go our way if we do just the right things. We can't. We can't control the flow of life through this dynamic reality, no matter how perfectly or diligently we try. There are too many moving parts. The unexpected will happen. There's no way we can anticipate every possibility in every situation all the time.
That doesn't mean our actions make no difference; on the contrary! They make every difference. Every action we take has a ripple that impacts the whole of this reality. Quantum science validates this. We are all interconnected. The seemingly separate bits and pieces of this entire reality form one living entity.
But let's not go down that rabbit hole today. Today I want to invite you to find a new balance inside, one in which you stop trying to control or manipulate life into doing your bidding, and instead, begin to align with its power. Because here's the deal: there's a much larger force than you operating through you. In fact, there's an infinite source of life expressing itself through you. That's powerful!
So let's get you aligned with that source, because when you do, the power of life can flow through you more easily, easing your sense of struggle. The first step is to unclench your fists from the things you cannot control, and embrace the things you can. For example, you can't control how other people treat you, but you can control how you relate to them, and how you treat yourself.
Now more than ever is a great time to practice self-nourishing. Make time to refill your cup every single day. You can't live your best life from a place of lack, overwhelm, or depletion. You can't be there for others when you feel exhausted. You can't change your circumstances without energy, inspiration, or motivation.
It's not selfish to fill your cup first. It's like they say on an airplane: put on your oxygen mask first; then help others with theirs. So figure out what your "oxygen mask" is, grab it, and put it on every single day, even if it's just for three minutes. Do it, because keeping yourself full enough to have a positive relationship with life is being self-aware, not selfish.
CURBING STRESS AND OVERWHELM
Here are a few of my favorite "oxygen masks" to give you some ideas:
Hey there, my friends.
Just checking in because I'm hearing from many women that they are feeling...off. There are all the obvious reason why this might be the case—political tensions, racial tensions, financial stressors, health stressors, personal stressors, stressors from massive life-style changes, and so much more...
We women could explain away the tension we feel inside in these ways, yet I'm experiencing it as something much deeper. There's a movement happening within the larger field of existence, a balancing of energies. This movement is essential to our existence and possibly to our survival. Do you catch my drift?
This isn't about "us" and "them." In fact it's quite the opposite. This is about "we" and "our." The larger movement beneath what we're experiencing in the media and agenda-driven surface of our lives is unitive rather than divisive.
Yet to connect with this larger movement, we must be able to see beyond our conditioned selves and behind the curtain of illusion that we are stuffed with on a daily basis. We must be willing to at least consider that there is more going on here than meets the eye.
If you're paying attention at all, you may have seen and heard a lot about this already. I'm going to add my voice to the stream, because this is important for us to understand. And not only to understand, but to truly feel. And not only to truly feel, but to align with.
If we don't, if we choose instead to continue to ignore or deny it, to take sides and reinforce the "us" versus "them" mentality, we open the floodgates for even more suffering. Not just for us personally, but for the people, animals, sea creatures, birds, lands, waters, and air we are all connected to...the whole of this thing we call "life."
For women right now, it is essential that we stop ignoring and denying our inner voices, our intuitive wisdom, and our inherent power as a mighty force in this reality...because it's that voice, that deeper wisdom, that is called for now.
Just because we have ignored and denied the inner echo of our true voices, our intuitive wisdom, and our powerful purpose does not mean it does not exist. It does! Absolutely and without a doubt, it is a part of us, who we are.
Life circumstances and history cannot, do not, wipe that away. It's an inherent part of our nature as the life-bearers. No amount of denial, rejection, laws, abuse, or toxicity can take that away from us. And that is why today, she rises.
SHE RISES. Do you feel the power in that? I do. And I feel it in every client I'm working with. I feel it in the voices of women everywhere, from every corner of the globe, and every walk of life too.
THE TIME IS NOW
It is time. There is no more room to ignore or deny the call of the feminine spirit, or to abandon the feminine soul. For, life is suffering and can no longer exist without the soul's love.
I invite you to listen within. Listen truly and deeply to the seemingly empty spaces within your being. Listen to the echos of your heartbeat and feel its pulsing rhythm, the rhythm of life itself. This is you; this is life pulsing through you, God, the supreme being, pulsing through you.
You are no more or less worthy than anyone else, anything else, in this universe of existence to be here, to be empowered, and to be a force of goodness. But this is something you must claim. It will not force itself upon you, because it is you. And it holds no power through you until you proclaim it.
If you've read this far, you are my sister, no matter how you take my words. And I am your sister, standing for goodness beside you. I invite you to make a commitment to yourself to NEVER give in, and to take what steps you can toward cultivating an intimate relationship with your powerful true self. Here are some ways to start doing that today:
1. Make time weekly, if not daily, to sit or walk in nature, long enough to connect your full attention to the natural world around you, to observe it with the curiosity of a babe. This is building your capacity toward presence and mindfulness, which instill inner peace.
2. Move your body regularly if not daily, in any way that feels good to you: a brisk walk, a visit to a gym, dancing, stretching, doing yoga, jogging, running, anything you want! This helps you shed stress and nourish your physical body and spirit, which is essential to wellness.
3. Pick up a simple meditation practice regularly, if not daily. This carves out the space for you to connect with your true, infinite nature and build a relationship to that part of yourself. Doing so starts the process of shifting your power from the conditioned self with all of its requirements, to your true self which is free.
4. Get in the habit of using a journal. Writing down our experiences on the regular allows you to witness them more completely and neutrally, release more dense energies from your psyche, and more fully harvest the lessons you've learned.
5. Do things that inspire, relax, and fulfill you at least monthly, if not more. Some ideas are to take a nourishing bath, do art of any kind, take yourself somewhere of special interest, connect with someone you admire, start a new hobby you've been wanting to try, or treat yourself to something you've been waiting for.
Remember, if you change nothing, nothing changes.
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